F - First, decide to begin the process of forgiveness.
O - Oppose the temptation to give up on forgiveness.
R - Remind yourself to list the things that forgiveness is NOT.*
G - Give the person who harmed you space and time.
I - Invest time and energy in learning more about forgiveness.
V - Vitalize your life with diversions from the hurt of being wronged.
E - Engage in the stables of life: eat, drink, sleep, exercise, think, study,
fellowship, worship, pray, work, play, and of course, love.
N - Never forget that forgiveness will benefit you more than the person you are
E - Expect things to get better.
S - Seek time for quiet reflection, alone or with others.
S - See what positive outcomes may have occurred from the experience.
*Forgiven is NOT...
2. Pretending that nothing wrong happened
3. Refusing to address the wrong
4. Excusing the wrong
6. Pretending the wrong didn't matter
7. A single act, but rather a process that may take years.
R - Reconsider your viewpoint from the perspective of the person who disagrees
E - Evaluate your position by soliciting opinions from those who may be more
C - Consider listening more than talking.
O - Offer your information and opinions, whether written or spoken, with
kindness and courtesy.
N - Never engage in name-calling.
C - Continue to hope.
I - Investigate new ideas and fresh possibilities.
L - Live your life.
I - Insist on diverting your attention from the conflict to engage in positive, healing
activities for yourself and others.
A - Assertiveness is still likely to be a wise and useful tool.
T - Tell others about this experience.
I - Invest in the experience by listing all the learnings you have gained.
O - Open yourself to the possibility that there may never be any reconciliation.
N - Never resort to retaliation.
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